Your story is unique, just like you. An unplanned pregnancy means you have the chance to write the next chapter. Deciding whether abortion or adoption is the right choice is extremely difficult. Only you know the story that has brought you to this point.
No one has the power to force you to have an abortion or make an adoption plan. Both decisions have a lifetime of consequences so we encourage you to get as much information as possible about each option before you decide. Let Willow Women’s Center help you.
Before you choose abortion or adoption
Your first step before you make any decisions about your unplanned pregnancy is to have a pregnancy screening. We offer no-cost pregnancy services.
No-cost pregnancy testing
Even if you’ve taken an at-home pregnancy test, you should verify the result with a no-cost confidential pregnancy test from us. It’s always important to get a second opinion.
Out of fear, women take an at-home test too early or don’t follow the directions carefully. It’s also possible you could have had a natural miscarriage. If that’s the case, you might get a false test result. It takes your body a while to recognize you’re no longer pregnant.
No-cost limited ultrasound
After a positive pregnancy test, your next step will be an ultrasound. We provide no-cost confidential ultrasound services. Only an ultrasound can tell if your pregnancy is viable. A viable pregnancy means you haven’t miscarried and the fetus is growing. Ultrasound also measures the number of weeks you’ve been pregnant and where your pregnancy is located.
Abortion vs. Adoption
Once you’ve confirmed your pregnancy and know how far along you are, it’s time to look closely at your options. You actually have three, abortion, adoption, and parenting.
No matter what you’ve been told, abortion is not a simple process to “get rid of the problem.” There are definite physical and emotional side effects and potential risks you’ll be taking. The number of weeks you’ve been pregnant determines which type of procedure you qualify for, medical or surgical. If you’re less than 10 weeks, you can have a medical abortion. Anything longer than 10 weeks will require a surgical procedure.
Today, a birth mother (and father, if available) is in charge of making an adoption plan. You choose the adoptive family, the environment you want your child to be raised in, and if you want to have future contact.
You can make an open adoption plan which means you and the adoptive family exchange all identifying information like full names, addresses, and phone numbers. It allows you to communicate freely with one another. A closed adoption plan keeps you totally anonymous, or you can choose to create a plan somewhere in between.
Depending on your current situation, it could be the best option for you. If you’re not ready to parent, in a harmful relationship, or in the middle of school or a career, adoption lets you still be a mother without the responsibility.
Deciding if abortion or adoption is right for you
Like your other choices for your unexpected pregnancy (adoption or parenting), abortion is a difficult choice to make. Although many women say they immediately felt relief after their abortion, a sense of loss and grief can creep in months or maybe even years later. If abortion is an easy decision to make, why don’t more women talk about theirs? Instead, they suffer quietly.
Adoption is also a difficult decision to make. It, too, is a lifelong choice. Adoption is like a two-sided coin. On one side, your baby is in a loving, stable home, but without you. On the other side, you’re raising your baby but are unable to give them the love and care they deserve. However, if you choose an open adoption plan, you can continue your schooling or career while watching and participating in your child’s life.
We can help
As you can see, neither of these decisions are easy to make. We’re here to help you sort through both processes and make the best choice for you and your future. Visit Willow Women’s Center for pregnancy testing at no-cost to you. You don’t have to make this decision alone. How can we serve you? Schedule an appointment today!